Aside from rainbows and butterflies or whatever, what does it take for a person to be satisfied or content with their life?
Last summer (2017), while on our retreat to Lake Conroe, one of my dear writer peeps brought a worksheet that listed twenty-five of the most common vital needs. Most people have 5 to 7 seven needs requiring fulfillment on a regular basis, whether daily or weekly, monthly, etc.
| personal time | doing for others | recognition for achievements | movement | sleep |
| approval and acceptance | order and closure | time alone | territory | financial security |
| one-on-one attention | group relationships | empathy | humor | spirituality |
| touch | having a project | variety of experiences | structured time | unstructured time |
| being with people | anticipation | competition | learning something new | listening to music |
When my girlfriends and I first talked about these, a few jumped out at me right away.
Sleep--check. Minimum six hours a night with occasional naps to make up what I need.
Personal time--check. I am an early bird and get up super early to enjoy the peace and quiet of the house.
Movement--check. I always feel better when I get my exercise in. I definitely need to get back on track with regular exercise.
Time Alone--check. Early mornings and working from home Tuesdays and Thursdays give me that time.
Listening to music--check. Everyday. In the car if I'm alone. At the office via YouTube. My iPod is docked in my home office.
Humor--check. My Puck Soup Podcast is a staple. I get new content seven times a month, but I often re-listen to a favorite episode.
As I look at the list now, some other things that didn't strike me then, now do.
Having a project--as you probably know by the number of posts there are about cross stitching in this blog, I generally have a project. Usually the cross stitching, but I occasionally do other crafts or work on the house and yard. Also writing.
Doing for others--I've volunteered forever in various groups that I've been a part of. My writers group, the PTA, Band Boosters, my daily chat room.
Structured time/unstructured time--I don't like having my day so structured that everything is scheduled, but I do live by a fairly regular routine and I have a lengthy TO-DO list that keeps me productive each day.
What about you? Any of those needs strike a chord with you??
