tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311327768267164732.post2108607832912032452..comments2024-01-16T13:22:19.986-06:00Comments on A Time For Everything: Adrift...Jen FitzGeraldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15746163660525324335noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311327768267164732.post-59681875190953314852013-08-29T17:44:21.276-05:002013-08-29T17:44:21.276-05:00Thanks, gals!
I ask Sonshine often if he wants me...Thanks, gals!<br /><br />I ask Sonshine often if he wants me to be less present, but he always says he doesn't mind and even so, I try not to crowd him so to speak when I'm around.Jen FitzGeraldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15746163660525324335noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311327768267164732.post-4997949981008624052013-08-28T21:51:18.525-05:002013-08-28T21:51:18.525-05:00How about deciding not to decide right away? Go to...How about deciding not to decide right away? Go to the game and see how it feels not to be in the thick of things. You can still sit by the band, right? Something I had to decide when my son was in marching band was whether I was intruding on his space ... so, because we could be honest with each other, I asked. His answer was also my answer :-) <br /><br />NancyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311327768267164732.post-60341681090372888632013-08-28T16:50:35.032-05:002013-08-28T16:50:35.032-05:00I'll echo Regina's advice--you've more...I'll echo Regina's advice--you've more than paid your dues, so you shouldn't feel bad about being a spectator now.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00700737187405826842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8311327768267164732.post-83724340808413784862013-08-28T09:42:54.413-05:002013-08-28T09:42:54.413-05:00You asked for suggestions. Here's mine, though...You asked for suggestions. Here's mine, though it may be a dud.<br /><br />Admit to yourself that you probably spent as much or more, in a hundred little ways, being a chaperone as you would had you just being a parent in the stands. That takes the financial bit out of the equation. <br /><br />Then imagine yourself attending all the events as simply an observer/applauder that you previously attended as an in-the-thick-of-it volunteer. How does that feel? If good, step into the cheering crowd, you've already done more than your fair share. But if it makes you feel bereft, just go ahead and volunteer and do your best to be a cog in the engine and not the entire engine - may not work, but you can try.<br /><br />Having a daughter who just graduated high school and is now away at college, I can say that I regret the very few events I missed. I regret none of the ones I made or any of the work that I did around those events. Once it's over and they move on, it's over.<br /><br />So the question comes back to what your heart tells you that you want. The same level of involvement in Band? A different level of involvement? Or perhaps you want the same level of involvement but in something different (like battalion or another student org)?<br /><br />Not an easy call, but you're the only one who can make it. Good luck.<br /><br />p.s. What does Sonshine want?Regina Richardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03507654672355756028noreply@blogger.com